Human Relations in the time of Qwerty

We live in an era satiated by instant gratification. Not only are we aggressive in conquering the physical, but the intangibles of love, friendship and the daily affections that keep us human and tender- have seemingly becoming an easy trade.
Social networking on a public or personal scale has really opened us up. The floodgates of our complexities have laid us bare to the judgments of people we don’t know. I mean sure, we all possess the choice of how much of ourselves we reveal and how much the world has earned the right to know. But, truth is, there is a certain attraction about masquerading behind a social veil. Sometimes it challenges us to be the extraordinary idea of ourselves- full of ideologies, quick-witted arguments and engineering social conversations that reveal the depth of our consciousness. Sometimes though, social media allows us to be human. To openly share the disappointments, sadness and anxieties that are real to us all.
Every so often though, the way we treat social media robs us of our mystery as people or serves as a compromise to the physical, wholesome human interactions. We clutch our qwerty keypads knowing that they pale in comparison to touch, to eyes meeting and feeling, to warm words wrapping, to laughter reverberating across the room and sometimes simple companionship that finds a way to be there. We have become somewhat resolved in not making enough face to face time for our relationships Life doesn’t always allow for simple pleasures. But in a time where we are complacent about authenticity, we start to find technology as a lifeline to finding and sustaining human relationships versus being a vehicle to fill the gaps. Our relationships are held by Whatsapp conversation, and links and tweeting and texts and not enough holding hands, finding new adventures and actually talking.
We seek validation from people we have sold an inflated perception of ourselves instead of reaching out to the people who are comfortable and reinforcing to the individuals we already are. What I consider to be most fascinating is the level of attention needing in social media spaces. How many people really need to know when you are going to bed, or what you had for breakfast, or which people you are leaving behind as your new years resolution, or the troubles in your marriage, or how many girls and boys you’ve had laid in your bed. See, where is our mystery? Has the world earned your intimacy? Fake sincerity from strangers doesn’t allow for the security we all really need, the desire to be understood. While compassion may be the universal bread of life, maybe we should start breaking bread with those closest to us first.
And yet we keep pouring outwards, instead of reaching sideways to the people that are there. To the relationships that have stood the weather of time, the kind that are not interested in our superficiality. We have become madly social- in cocoons. We channel the world in our own narrow filters. We don’t talk-to each other- enough, read enough good books, see enough wonder. I admire what social networking has done for us, being someone who avidly benefits from it. I do wish though the full scope of our living doesn’t reside in a smartphone.


2 thoughts on “Human Relations in the time of Qwerty

  1. Very interesting read this is Thabile am very impressed by your sense of articulare and drive!! Keep up the good articulation , I love real people like you!

  2. I absolutely love this article.Speaks truth.These social networks have really broken the value of Authenticity and having real relationships instead of opening ourselves up to strangers where else there are always close people one can turn to.The dependency is really scary

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